Joshunda, this review is masterful! You've captured exactly why Jeffers' voice feels like fellowship. I'm struck by her line about 'falling in love with defeat' vs victory. As a father preparing my daughter for these same academic and professional spaces, I'm curious, what does 'falling in love with victory' actually look like in practice? How do we teach that transition?
Thank you for this feedback and for the valuable question. I don’t think I have a good answer, but what I want to say is that one way to teach falling in love with victory is to commit to leading with the vision and future we most want for our kids instead of focusing on or admiring the problems and obstacles. It’s really hard to practice but it is worth it to try imagining what it feels like to win as opposed to staying mired in feelings of defeat.
I really appreciate the framing of leading with vision. That distinction between problem admiration and future-building is exactly the reorientation I’ve been thinking about, especially in the context of raising a daughter.
I wonder if part of it is also about normalizing joy, not as an escape from struggle, but as a practice of rehearsal for victory. Teaching ourselves to recognize not just what survival feels like, but what thriving could sound like in our own voice.
Adding this to my goodreads rn! Incredible review
Thank you - I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
Joshunda, this review is masterful! You've captured exactly why Jeffers' voice feels like fellowship. I'm struck by her line about 'falling in love with defeat' vs victory. As a father preparing my daughter for these same academic and professional spaces, I'm curious, what does 'falling in love with victory' actually look like in practice? How do we teach that transition?
Thank you for this feedback and for the valuable question. I don’t think I have a good answer, but what I want to say is that one way to teach falling in love with victory is to commit to leading with the vision and future we most want for our kids instead of focusing on or admiring the problems and obstacles. It’s really hard to practice but it is worth it to try imagining what it feels like to win as opposed to staying mired in feelings of defeat.
I really appreciate the framing of leading with vision. That distinction between problem admiration and future-building is exactly the reorientation I’ve been thinking about, especially in the context of raising a daughter.
I wonder if part of it is also about normalizing joy, not as an escape from struggle, but as a practice of rehearsal for victory. Teaching ourselves to recognize not just what survival feels like, but what thriving could sound like in our own voice.
Grateful for the exchange.
You sure know how to make a sister Happy-Ugly Cry! THANK YOU! I'm incredibly moved and so grateful.
Aw, you are so welcome. I meant every word, and more. I can’t wait to see this on the bestseller lists. Keep shining! 🥰
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